Helping Children Understand Loss

By: Ian Elliott
Wednesday, January 29, 2020

Children have a unique way to view this world and its complexities. Just because they view things differently doesn’t mean adults should underestimate their level of awareness or understanding. At Arbutus Funeral Service, we understand how difficult it can be to help children cope with loss. Here are some tips that can help:

1. Communicate Clearly

It is tempting to explain death and loss in vague terms, but that does more harm than good. Communicate about death clearly and precisely, without using terms like ‘gone away’ or ‘is one with the stars.’ Something like ‘We got some sad news today. Uncle Al died this morning.' Pause and let your child process the information and answer any questions they may have clearly. 

2. Offer Comfort

Children have different ways of reacting to grief. Some may cry and feel emotional, others may not show any emotion at all. Don’t let their reaction affect you and offer unconditional support. Just hold your child and listen carefully to what they have to say.

3. Encourage Verbal Expression of Grief

Help children express their grief verbally and show how it is affecting you as well. Tell them it is alright to feel sad, angry, confused, or lonely. Some children will hide what they feel and internalize the grief, which can lead to emotional problems later on. Encouraging verbal expression can help them deal with loss in a positive way.

4. Explain How Death Changes Things

Children want stability and feel unnerved when their routine or safety net is disrupted. You can counteract this by explaining how things will change. If an aunt used to babysit your child, you should tell them who will take over that responsibility. If a parent used to feed or read them stories, tell your child who will do those things instead.

Have any questions or want to make arrangements for funeral services? Just contact us or give us a call (604) 888-9895. We at Arbutus Funeral Service will be happy to help.

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:
Please enter the numbers and letters you see in the image. Note that the case of the letters entered matters.

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

Coping With Grief When You Have a Chronic Illness

It is rare for a chronic illness to go into remission, and it can last for years or even a lifetime in some situations. People's ability to work and have active or seemingly "normal" lifestyles can...

Support Services Available After A Suicide

It's never easy to lose a loved one, but losing someone to suicide can be even more difficult. Although the shock, uncertainty, feeling of guilt, and sadness might be challenging to deal ...

Managing Grief During the Festive Season

The festive season is a time for fun, food, and celebrating with your friends, family, or close relatives. However, this changes when you're coping with the death of a loved one. Chances are, you'r...

Cremation: The Advantages and Disadvantages

Every individual, as we all know, will die at some point. Despite this, people seldom address topics like dying openly. However, times are changing; any want to learn more about the procedures invo...

Does A Funeral Service Have To Be Held In A Funeral Home Or Church?

There are two specific events after a person passes- viewings and funerals. Before the burial, the body is displayed, and attendees are welcome to pay their respects. An hour before the service, gu...

How Long Can A Person Be In Hospice Care?

Hospice care is expressly set up for those who are in the final stages of their lives. It helps them cope with pain, provides emotional support and comfort in a challenging time. Hospice generally ...

How Does Compounded Grief Affect Our Coping Abilities?

Sadness is challenging for most individuals to deal with, and the fact is that grief tends to compound when not addressed on time. While some people can cope with loss healthily, others find it inc...

Where Can I Scatter Cremated Remains?

After cremation, the person’s ashes are handed over to the next of kind. Many people who are not acquainted with the cremation process and how it works aren’t sure about what they need to do with t...

Ways To Say Goodbye To A Loved One

It’s always tough to bid adieu to a loved one who has left for his or her heavenly abode. Even if the person had been ailing and you knew the end was near, when that moment finally comes, you may n...

5 Interesting Facts About Cremation

Cremation is fast becoming the preferred disposition method today rather than a traditional burial. People from various faiths are showing interest in it. We at Arbutus Funeral Service have seen th...